There's a lot of talk at the moment about violence against women being perpetrated by men, my initial thought was simply that I am a man and I am not violent towards women which, whilst true is entirely unhelpful.
The point is that I am a man, I don't like that I belong to a group that statistically is so likely to be violent towards women but I am and the only way to start to fix such a screwed up situation is to recognise that it is a screwed up situation that needs the help of people unlucky enough to find themselves in the group that are responsible for the crimes.
It takes a great deal to realise that when someone says men are committing violence against women they are not pointing the finger at a specific man but saying that as a group is statistically doing it, no one is saying all men but we need to realise the percentage within that group.
Take an extreme case someone says people walk on two legs, most people will agree this is the case but there are those that do not have 2 legs, or those that cannot walk, it's not that we're saying that they walk on 2 legs but the group as a whole does and they may feel upset thinking you make a claim about them that simply isn't true but the statement over the group as a whole is true.
Once you get past this fact you can address the real issue.
The fact that I am in a group that's bad but I am not bad means I am in a position to fix the problem, I don't want anyone else in my group to do bad things.
I don't believe that people are born bad, I reach that conclusion based on kids in a playground...
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